I goes without saying that when you travel for work 3-4 days a week you miss out on stuff, a lot of stuff. I think Mommy Points covered this topic from the perspective of a spouse with a traveling partner.
When you travel every week, Family / Loved One time tends to gets squeezed into a long weekend, birthdays / holidays can be missed, friends are put at arms length, all this makes sense, your not in the town you “live in” for a majority of the week.
Coming home and experiencing the “transition” period isn’t either on either party. Mrs. Weekly Flyer and I have a pretty good system in place to adjust quickly back into home mode. Un-packing is key to coming home for us. Seeing a suitcase stuffed with a week’s worth of business clothes for 3 days doesn’t help. So it’s on the top of the list when returning home, other than the welcome home dinner (take-out is best even after 4-5 meals on the road) of course.
I agree, that traveling for a living is a tough proposition to put your spouse in, especially one who hasn’t traveled for work. But the other side of the coin (traveling) isn’t all roses all the time. Sure you get fancy dinners, they get old, you pack on pounds on the road. A home cooked meal is on the mind after a few nights out with no end in site. I once ate 4 meals on domestic flights in the span of a few days. Not a good feeling regardless of how good the food is.
A hotel suite upgrade to a huge room by yourself aren’t enough to make up for missing valuable time with family.
But I admit, sometimes the wine is good – really good sometimes. But that doesn’t wash away the time away from your family.
It isn’t a fun time when you find yourself in a small town, working long hours, in a rinky-dink hotel with a late night check-in and an early check-out. Traveling sometimes just reinforces that fact I’m a firm believer in the saying that “absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
Sometimes…I do hate the road when I’m missing home and more importantly, the family.
How do you deal with being away from family and friends on the road? Which is more difficult, the transition back home or the departure on the outbound?